It doesn’t matter where you work, who you work for or what kind of a job you have, everyone can get frustrated with work for one reason or another. Whether it is because the clients coming in the door have been disagreeable, the copy machine refuses to do what it is programmed to do or the numbers just don’t add up, there are days that seem to be overwhelmingly frustrating. While it may be true that most days the job is great, the moments or days that seem to be frustrating can sometimes push one to almost take that last step and quit. Though there are many people who would love nothing more than to quit a job they generally detest, there are others who wake up the next morning and wonder why they would ever want to quit their perfect job.
Let’s face it, no job is perfect. There are jobs that may be enjoyable, but every job has its cons that if small enough, one could work at ignoring. Many enjoy their jobs enough and find enough positives to keep going, while others can’t find enough pros about their job because they never wanted to work there in the first place. Regardless of whether the job is what a person really wanted or not, frustration can erupt when a day, or a number of days, just don’t seem to go right. What keeps people working to ignore or push away their frustration? The need to work in order to pay for the necessities of life; in many cases this one thought can be enough to throw some into a fit because they feel chained in and unable to get themselves out of the job and situation they dislike.
Whatever the cause of frustration, there is the need to deal with it properly. Ignoring it, pushing it away and letting it build over time will, in most cases, lead to a regrettable situation that cannot be undone. Left unchecked, it can also lead to depression, anger, sadness, insomnia and even heart problems. It creates a stress that no one should have to live with as they go through their life. Life should be enjoyed and living the greater part of it in misery is not at all healthy. This is why taking the time to calm down, evaluate your situation and alter yourself, your views and/or your life may be necessary in order to improve your happiness. Seeking the help or advice of an online counselor can be extremely helpful because they can help you to look into yourself, listen to yourself and then decide whether you need to make moderate or severe changes in your life to alleviate the frustration, unhappiness and unnecessary stress in your life. Doing a search for an online therapist and getting some online counseling can be helpful to anyone dissatisfied with their current work. If online therapy is not something you are looking for at this time, an online therapist would still be more than happy to offer any suggestions or advice to any questions you may have.
Jennifer Baxt
http://www.articlesbase.com/health-articles/what-should-you-do-when-you-get-frustrated-at-work-746161.html
Should fathers who work ever help out with night time feedings?
I have a 9 week old baby who is very colicy and has a lot of gas trouble. Some nights are ok, some are just terrible. My partner and I live together but I’m on mat. leave and he works 830 – 430 so naturally I do all the night feedings. He never wakes up when the baby cries he sleeps like a log. Come weekends he does not help with the night feedings at all. I am so sleep deprived and even when the baby does sleep I now have trouble getting myself to fall asleep. He says I can nap during the day so he shouldnt have to help. I do breast feed and we always have a pumped bottle of milk in the fridge. He won’t help on weekends when he doesn’t have work either and if I force him to help he does it half ass or like he’s angry so I don’t even bother to wake him. When he comes home his main job is 8pm bath time and she’s back to me for the rest of the night. I am so frustrated should he be helping me at all? What do you think?
yes he should be helping u he help Create her now he should be helping raise her u need to sit down and have a conversation about what is happening. he really needs to grow up and take care of his responsibility’s. this is also putting u at a high risk of pnd (post natal depression)
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I have found out with husbands (my husband at least, anyways) that asking and asking him to do something will only make not want to do it or if he does, kinda be resentful about it, like it’s a big chore. What I’ve found that works is just being very grateful and thankful for the work he does do, not only he might be more apt to "step up" so to speak, but your attitude might change towards him and the work he does. My husband has never woken up to help me in the middle of the night with our son and our son is 10 months old. Instead of focusing on that, I focus on the things he does do to help me out and how hard he is working to provide for our family. He has taken on working 6 days a week so I can stay home with our son. Focus on the positive things your husband does and thank him for it, and maybe his attitude might change.
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He should help. I understand you being responsible for the majority of the baby care since you are not working right now, but you are healing and your body needs rest too. It sounds like he doesn’t want to sacrifice anything. He needs to give up a night a week so you can get rest. Yes you can nap during the day, but that isn’t how sleep cycles work. You need a night of uninterrupted sleep to recharge. It might be a battle, but it is worth it.
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Tell him you created this baby equally so ya’s can raise her equally otherwise show him the door……….
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When my sons were babies, my husband worked a graveyard shift so I had them to myself all night long and majority of the day because that’s when my husband slept but when he was awake, he’d help me. I understand the frustrations of not getting help.
As for your situation, yeah, he should be helping whenever he’s awake! Just because he thinks you can nap during the day, doesn’t excuse him from getting out of helping. When he gets home, give him a bit of time, like a half hour, to adjust to being home, then hand him the baby and tell him he’s on daddy duty because you need to go lay down. Sometimes, that’s what it takes!
Unless you’ve been sleep deprived like new moms are, you don’t know what it’s like to walk around all day feeling like a zombie! I know it’s hard sometimes to take naps while the baby is sleeping but you should at least take that time to lay down and close your eyes. It will help you get through the day a bit easier.
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My husband was the same way he goes to work at 0530 and comes home around 4-5(army) so I never really asked for help on the weekdays but weekends I expected help but rarely ever got it and when he would get up he would be upset so I would just get up myseld. It took many arguments and talks to get him to realize I’m doing all the house work and school and taking care of the baby. Eventually he got the picture and started helping more(on the weekends he would get up so I could get some sleep). You need to talk to him and make him realize its not fair just because he works doesn’t mean his day is over when he gets home, let him know your jobs is 24/7 and you need help. Good luck
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Yes, he should definitely help, especially on the weekends and once you go back to work. I won’t expect my husband to get up at night (except on weekends) while I’m on maternity leave (and I probably won’t start pumping until a few weeks before I go back), but once I go back to work, I will expect him to do some of the nighttime feedings as I need sleep just like he does.
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