Ok I was able bodied until I was 14. I was then in a car accident that caused a stroke so major the specialist said all I had going for me at that point was my age, cause had I of been 5 years older it would have just killed me. I worked really hard to rehabilitate but I am still unable to use my left arm at all and my walking is very slow and painful and my tolerance for it is low even on the best of days. I also in addition to yjr [physical impairments have serious brain injury side effects like disturbed sleep patterns, chronic fatigue as well as memory issues and all sort of typical Acquired Brain Injury symptoms. Anyway there is a girl I haven been friends with since I was 2 so she knew me when I was "normal" and since the accident (16 years now) she has made comments about my "laziness" I spent a lot of time correcting her because it is not laziness it is MY physical reality. I went four years not talking to her because of some backstabbing she did to me when I was a brownie leader. She ganged up on me with another leader and sat for and hour bitching at me over all the things I wasn’t doing right as a leader (because I physically could not) stupid things like crafts or playing tag so after that I quit the group and stopped talking to her. Then a few months ago thanks to Facebook she contacted me and I started talking to her. Now the other day I put up a post about my rampant insomnia and how I was just going to bed at 8am. She posted a snide comment about how I "live the life" and it pissed me off should I say something to her or just let it go? I am really hurt. It took alot of time and therapy to come to the spot in life to allow myself o do what I can and not what others think I should and yet I still face such treatment from people who really should know better.
Thank you all so much your answers are great. Very encouraging…. I am going to have the vote decide best answer as I simply could not choose
It is because of jerks like you I continuously have to defend and justify myself
That last edit was still intended for JD
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JD you obviously missed the entire point….. I was asking how to handle this person not bitching that no on e understands me. If you are such an insensitive jerk….. Why are you even here? Or is that you disability… if it is I am sorry that was insensitive of me but if it is a disability for you then SHUT IT!! Didn’t your momma teach you about if you can’t say something nice (or at least civil) Keep your trap closed
This is not a friend. This is a person you have known for a long time. I would let her know that you are blocking her from your facebook and prefer to have no further contact with her. You have enough on your plate – you do not need her pulling you down too.
28 Feb 11
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Tagged Backstabbing, Brain Injury, Brownie Leader, Car Accident, Chronic Fatigue, Crafts, Disability, Friends View, Insomnia, Laziness, Left Arm, Life Quot, Memory Issues, Physical Reality, Sleep, Sleep Patterns, Stroke, Stupid Things, Tolerance, Vote
Tagged Backstabbing, Brain Injury, Brownie Leader, Car Accident, Chronic Fatigue, Crafts, Disability, Friends View, Insomnia, Laziness, Left Arm, Life Quot, Memory Issues, Physical Reality, Sleep, Sleep Patterns, Stroke, Stupid Things, Tolerance, Vote
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It wouldn’t surprise me to find out that others disagree with this person when she says you "live the life." Others who know you too and are smarter than she is will look at that statement and know how misguided she is.
I think she signed her own death warrant by making that dumb a statement in public. Just sit back, wait and see. I think I’m right about this.
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Sweetheart Im so sorry this is happening to you,you deserve better.You really need to find some new friends.Wanta be mine? I would welcome you with open arms.Im disabled due to a work injury but not like you are.I do wish you well with this and hope to hear from you if you just need someone to just talk to.
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Yea, this is bad that people think that way. After my brain injury in 1989, everyone always hinted about how lucky I was not being able to work and stuff. People are just stupid.
All I know is that I admire you for your life struggles and other people do too! Sometimes it’s just hard for people to express it.
Take Care
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Clearly, there was a reason as to why this person was no longer in your life. In this case, I think it’d be better to cut off contact — but I’m not you. Do what you feel is best. There’s a related article about facebook friends that you might be interested in reading (below).
"When you don’t want to be Facebook friends: Connecting with your past can bring up those old, uncomfortable feelings"
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/27775484/
Add: I haven’t gotten on the facebook bandwagon, but you can use the features that are provided on the site to your advantage. Filter your content by contact group and restrict posting access to your wall.
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why woudl you talk to her again if she was this arrogant , ignorant and judgmental int he first place and you knew she was?
your only setting yourself up for a fall when you willingly put yourself in a position like that
sounds to me this girl is soemone you want to stay away from, and i know i woudl neve rhave went back to that
i cant tell you what to do, but for your own sanity , you reall yshould not involve yourself with soemone who clearly is still the same as they were, and they were never nice to you
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This is not a friend. This is a person you have known for a long time. I would let her know that you are blocking her from your facebook and prefer to have no further contact with her. You have enough on your plate – you do not need her pulling you down too.
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Forget her if she continues to act this way and be rude just drop her it maybe hard cause you’ve been friends for a long time but if she knows you have been in a car accident that is low just tell her how you feel….I HOPE YOU GET WELL!!
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eph your friend. Can you unfriend the roger? Is unfriend even a word? They should make it one. Democrats suck, I bet she is one.
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Shes not a good friend. A good friend will cheer you up and try to change because of your disability. But instead shes making you feel bad about your disability dont hang out with her. YOU deserve MUCH BETTER THAN THAT JERK. OK BYE
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Wah Wah Wah! No one understands me. Boo Hoo Hoo someone doesn’t like me.
Give me a break. The world is full of people. Meet some new ones.
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