and this will probably be offensive, but I don’t know any other way to say it. I’ve done my best to help out women and men struggling with life problems for the majority of my life, but when I’ve needed help the last few years, things have been different.
I don’t normally mention my depression, anxiety, chronic headaches, and insomnia that have been severe for four years in public, but it seems like whenever I mention anything online, every female responder says that I’m a p**** or not a man. And it seems like none of them ever care — probably because in their eyes I’m not a true man. Even my mom and sister don’t care that I’ve been struggling to hang in there.
I felt especially insulted when I had a gf two years ago who got mad when I mentioned needing to sleep another hour since I usually only slept 2-3 hours a night when I was over there and always had a chronic headache. She told me to stop complaining, and I only mentioned it one time, the entire time we were together. Whenever she had a cold or minor illness, I was always there for her, but it seems to girls, you’re weak if you’re a guy that has problems.
And I know it probably sounds like I’m generalizing, but I’ve received similar treatment from every female I’ve encountered on the web and in person. I often hear them talking about gender equality, but it seems like men who’re suffering are so worthless to them that they don’t deserve to exist.
Why do so many women treat guys this way?
Viva, you might be right. I don’t know, my last gf seemed a lot like that, but truth be told, she was my only true gf. When I normal, I tried to find nice girls, but I could just never meet one. The only reason I found this "pretty girl" was because I basically tutored her (and got her into business school) and she was an international student who probably liked me because of the aforementioned things and because of my height. I honestly thought she was different at first, though. I mean I admit I made a mistake, but I did not intentionally try to meet a girl like that.
Hey there
It sounds to me like you’ve encountered some pretty nasty women in your time. I would personally love a guy who is not afraid to cry or show some emotion when the situation calls for it. All that macho bs is overrated. As for your depression and anxiety, that does NOT make you a p**** or any less of a man. Living with depression is something that many people fail to understand, and I commend your strength. Plus it takes much more courage to come out and admit that there is a problem and that you need help, and that should be applauded, not condemned or ridiculed.
It is unfortunate that mental illness is so misunderstood and so stigmatized, when it’s not as though somebody chooses to be depressed or to suffer from anxiety, etc. In my opinion, the fact that you are willing to discuss these issues either in person with your family and friends, or somewhat anonymously in online forums, etc, shows that you are more of a man than the average guy out there. As for your question on why women do this, I really don’t know. But I can tell you, as a woman, that I for one do not think that discussing your depression makes you any less of a man, to the contrary in fact.
probley because women think a man should not be ill, or cry, or be depressed. they think that a man, should be a ‘man’ they dont realize we are only human like them. we have a brain, we have eye’s that will cry due to our brain being emotionaly upset. and so on, to them, we have to be the lion, the king of the jungle. lol….( sort of, not saying all women think this way heheh ) but ya get my idea…i think….
References :
I’ll tell you why sweetie. YOU are attracted to the WRONG kind of women. WHY????? I realy do not know! that you have to work out for yourself. Maybe you are attracted to women who your family or upbringing consider as "little queens" and the other male friends and family members have brought women around you to think that a man needs to be a martyr and to sacrifice all for a woman and this wopman needs to look "pretty" and be demanding of absolute strenght from all the men in their lives without the woman contributing anything to the relationship as it is a mans jobh to do absolutely everything alone for her. I don’t realy know Jamal but some men ( ok most men) – and maybe you are amongst them are only attracted by looks and bi_chiness.. they like women who are very pretty and behave in a bitchi way.. that attracts them but than they get into a relationship with these women who look so beautiful on their arms but these women are used to being the centre of attention ( as they have always been) and they like complaining and bitching but will not let a guy ever complain or have feelings or care much foir the guy .. because it doesnt even go on their radar that the guy is human too. But you know what? guys like that I dont feel sorry for! HEYYYYYYY.. you wanted a B’.. so you married one buster!!!! – so if you are one of those guys who chooses B’s because those B’s attract you..because they are up themselves and you like running after spoilt demanding girls than sorry and I do not feel for you.
References :
Me- a girl who is quite pretty but is not a B’, definately not a spoilt queen and know about men and what they are like!
YESSSS.. I know Jamal, no man INTENTIONALLY tries to be with a woman like this.. usually they just don’t think because the beauty just dazzles them- if they have known that a year or two down the road the girl will turn out to not care about them and their feelings they would never go with her.. it’s just that guys are bedazzled by beauty they don’t think that much about CHARACTER. They may think of personality that is fun and carefree but njot about the "character of the person.. to me the character of a person is just as important if not more important than their personality. You seem like a nice guy and a caring person I think you will ( with time find the right woman for you – just remember what I said
:)))))). Mental illness or depression is very common as well.. it shouldnt be a taboo subject anymore . The most important thing Jamal is to talk about it to people that will be a support group for you cause bottling it up is the worst thing. Don’t feel bad or ashamed to go and talk to your family doctor about getting some tablets that can "lift your mood" there is nothing wrong with it if you need those tablets.. they may make you feel 100% better at most times. Good luck !
Hey there
It sounds to me like you’ve encountered some pretty nasty women in your time. I would personally love a guy who is not afraid to cry or show some emotion when the situation calls for it. All that macho bs is overrated. As for your depression and anxiety, that does NOT make you a p**** or any less of a man. Living with depression is something that many people fail to understand, and I commend your strength. Plus it takes much more courage to come out and admit that there is a problem and that you need help, and that should be applauded, not condemned or ridiculed.
It is unfortunate that mental illness is so misunderstood and so stigmatized, when it’s not as though somebody chooses to be depressed or to suffer from anxiety, etc. In my opinion, the fact that you are willing to discuss these issues either in person with your family and friends, or somewhat anonymously in online forums, etc, shows that you are more of a man than the average guy out there. As for your question on why women do this, I really don’t know. But I can tell you, as a woman, that I for one do not think that discussing your depression makes you any less of a man, to the contrary in fact.
References :
Help yourself and be more careful who you trust if your gut feeling says they are wrong for you then go with it as you have these instincts for a reason.
Whilst everyone needs nurture firstly you need to feel loved and nurtured too so be self-indulgent for a change take big walks to clear your head, write a list of positives and negatives then make a plan based on your basic needs.
So be good to yourself and stop stressing over the others and before long you will have them eating out of your hand for a change you need to get some control back, but be very picky who you trust based on their record.
Take care
You have neglected yourself Kalms are a good herbal remedy and porridge oats will soothe and get some head and foot massage, healthy body healthy mind and all that.
References :
Others need to look out for themselves and although this sounds selfish there are few who can feel confidence to trust and respect others agendas above their own, even if your intentions were genuine. You might seem like you are trying to help but that could’ve appeared to be patronising, they can only help themselves at the end of the day anyway so better to let them make their own bed and lie in it I say.